I recently saw this image on Facebook (it was shared by George Takei, whose Facebook feed is pretty entertaining):
While I am personally in favor of passing laws that benefit the interests of gays and lesbians, this comparison of gay marriage to donuts masks what is at stake in the current political battles. It advances the myth of liberalism—the myth that we’re all disconnected individuals (otherwise “to each his own” or “live and let live” sentiments make no sense). But we’re interconnected very much.
Another way of framing this is that Americans are in a battle over who can control the organization of the matrix in which individuals (come to) exist.
One could of course argue that a matrix that prohibits gay marriage burdens the LGBT community more than permitting it would burden conservatives, but it remains the case that those on the left are in fact trying to gain traction in controlling the matrix of society.
Of course, we can ask, what is gained by denying it? In this case it’s clear: when leftists describe the matter as if conservatives alone are attempting to control the matrix of society, they make their own war of position invisible.